A groom claims he and his bride have been the subject of unfair backlash after banning family and friends from having unnaturally dyed hair, visible tattoos, or piercings at their wedding.
The 29-year-old man said they wanted their guests to be formally dressed for their wedding shoot because they spent a large amount of money on their photographer.
He said they had to warn one of their mothers that she couldn’t wear the cocktail style dress she had her eye on, but they also told a family friend she wasn’t allowed to bring flat shoes to change into.
He posted to Reddit saying they had spent a lot of money on their white-tie even and wanted it to go well, adding they had spent months planning their big day.
He wrote: “One thing we are really looking forward to is our wedding shoot.
“We have spent a large amount of our own money on a photographer, who we hired after weeks of research and shopping recommendations.
“The photographer is highly, highly sought after in our area and we were lucky to book him last year in advance. So naturally we are taking this seriously.”
He added: “The invitations we sent explicitly told our guests what we’d be expecting from them (white tie, no unnaturally dyed hair, no visible tattoos or piercings) and that they were free to decline the invitation if they had a problem with this.
“We also sent everybody who RSVP’d a reminder over email several weeks ago repeating this instruction.”
The man said both sets of parents, cousins, siblings, and “many more people” have all messaged them privately to ask them to be more flexible with their dress code. But the pair have stood firm.
“This isn’t happening, so we have just pointed to our “white tie only” policy and told them they accepted the rules when they RSVP’d.
“In our opinion, while wearing knee-length dresses and suits (rather than a tux) might be appropriate for “day to day life,” they will doubtlessly look out of place at a wedding that is supposed to be fully formal.”
He added that they have since been branded “a***holes” and are not backing down.
He added: “We have even told our guests that if anyone has a problem with this, they are free to drop out (even though we will still be paying for their seats now) and not attend.”
His post was met with many calling him out for the strict policy.
One pointed out: “Requiring heels is incredibly ableist on top of sexist (and if floor length gowns are a must, who would even notice flats under the dress?) and some guests may not feel comfortable disclosing health concerns that prevent wearing them for a full night.”
Another added: ”White tie in a non white tie crowd is an a**hole move.
“Insisting on strictly enforcing it is even more so. It’s one thing for people who regularly go to such events, and another if you require people to buy a whole new expensive outfit just for your wedding.”